FOR NEWCOMERS

About Our Meetings

An SAA group consists of two or more individuals who, using the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of SAA, meet regularly for the purpose of recovering from their addictive sexual behavior. At our meetings, we read SAA literature and share our experience, strength and hope with each other, focusing on how the SAA program of recovery works in our lives"

 

(Sex Addicts Anonymous, Second Edition, Page 3)

 

 

Getting Started

 

The Nashville SAA Intergroup practices "12-Stepping." This means that we recommend you contact us and set up a time to meet with two members of our fellowship to hear their stories, share a little more about our program, and answer any of your questions. We do this at a location that is safe and agreeable for all parties. Anonymity and confidentiality are guaranteed.

 

If you feel it is important to meet with people of the same gender or sexual orientation as yourself, please let us know when we set up the appointment.

 

There are currently three meetings that are published for newcomers. This means that you can find the addresses for those meetings listed on the Meetings page and you can attend those meetings without the "12-Stepping." Generally, those meetings will hold a break out session or Newcomer Meeting when a new person attends.

 

 

Our Recommendation

 

We suggest coming to at least six meetings before deciding whether SAA is for you. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself time to listen to others' stories and absorb the introductory literature. If you are like us, you did not get to where you are now overnight.

 

 

Anonymity and Confidentiality

 

Anonymity and confidentiality are cornerstones of Sex Addicts Anonymous®. Only first names are used. Status and position outside of the group is not an issue. Our common bond is the desire to stop compulsive sexual behavior and to live a sexually healthy life. Anonymity and confidentiality are essential for a SAA meeting being a safe place.

 

 

Safe & Sober Meetings

 

A meeting is NOT a place to meet sexual partners.

 

Please silence all cell phone, pagers, and beepers during the meeting.

 

No texting or taking of photographs during the meeting.

 

 

Appropriate Dress

 

As men and women in recovery we are dedicated to a program that supports maintaining healthy boundaries. As part of this, we try to insure that our meetings are safe places where we can find refuge, solace, support, and healing without being distracted by bare skin.

 

We suggest that members use discretion in their attire, and do not wear risqué, seductive, and/or skimpy clothing. Examples of items that would be inappropriate: hot pants, short shorts (including skimpy running shorts), miniskirts, halter tops and bare midriffs, low-cut blouses, shorts without underwear, and bra-less knit tops.

 

 

Appropriate Language

 

In our meetings, sharing focuses on our sobriety and our new life in recovery. Graphic language, body part descriptions, and references to places we acted out are discouraged.

 

 

Healthy Boundaries

 

“Because of the nature of our addiction, we are careful about touching or giving hugs to others in the fellowship without permission.”

 

(Sex Addicts Anonymous, Second Edition, Page 12)

 

It is O.K. to say, “No, thank you,” and to set physical boundaries for your own sense of safety and well-being.

 

 

Sharing

 

We also use the words “I” instead of “you” when sharing about our recovery.

 

We do not interrupt or give advice.

 

We address our sharing to the whole group, not to one or more individuals.

 

In our meetings we do not engage in crosstalk. Crosstalk means to interrupt or directly respond to the shares of other members.

 

A meeting is not a place to meet sexual partners, nor is it group therapy.

 

Please avoid mentioning the name of a Book, Movie, Treatment Center or the like in your share because this can be viewed by some as "promotion.” It is ok, however, to talk about your experiences with these items.

 

 

Meeting Outline

 

When you arrive at the meeting, you will find people who share a common malady—powerlessness over sexual compulsive behavior—and who have found a solution: the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Sex Addicts Anonymous®. You will see anywhere from three to 20 or more people (usually more men than women) at a meeting. You will be welcome there. Many members attend more than one meeting a week.

 

If you are a woman, you may want to read For Women located on this website.

 

If you are a gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning or intersex person, you may want to read For GLBTQQI People accessible on this website.

 

Some of our meetings are held in churches, but SAA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy, neither endorses nor opposes any causes. The only relationship we have with any owner of meeting space is that of a renter.

 

The meeting usually opens with the Serenity Prayer:

 

God, grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

 

Meeting formats vary, but all SAA groups are the same in that they seek recovery on three levels—physical, emotional, and spiritual—through the Twelve Steps, and the only requirement for membership is the desire to stop sexual compulsive behavior.

 

Although meeting formats vary, you will hear someone read from SAA literature, and members will share their experience, strength, and hope. You will have an opportunity to introduce yourself (first name only) as a newcomer, if you like. Because anonymity is a cornerstone of our traditions, you are assured that what you share will be held in confidence.

 

When you listen to others share, you may recognize your own story. Listening will help you find others that have what you want—to be free from compulsive sexual behavior. You may want to ask someone you identify with to be your sponsor. A sponsor will share the experience, strength and hope they’ve found in Twelve-Step recovery and can answer the questions you have about the program. While a Temporary Sponsor is usually assigned right away, it may take you several meetings before you find a Sponsor to help you work through the steps.

 

When members share, you may hear them refer to a Higher Power or to God. SAA is not a religious program and does not subscribe to any specific religious doctrine or ideology. SAA is a program that practices spiritual principles, and members individually approach these principles with a Higher Power of their own understanding.

 

Meetings usually last about an hour. Before and after the meeting, feel free to ask questions and pick up some SAA literature to help you learn about the program. Every newcomer is given a Newcomers Packet that addresses some of the most common questions and answers.

 

Because we are self-supporting through our own contributions, a basket is usually passed for donation which are used to pay rent, buy literature and help support SAA’s service organizations.

 

You will notice that some members volunteer to help keep the meeting going, such as the meeting chair or treasurer. Some groups have people who set up the meeting space or make coffee. Members find that doing service in SAA helps keep them from acting out on their compulsive sexual behavior. Service is important to their recovery and allows them to give back to the Fellowship that has saved their lives. Service opportunities exist at all levels of the Fellowship, from setting up chairs at meetings to being on the Board of Trustees for our International Service Organization (ISO).

 

The meeting usually ends in a circle with the members saying the Serenity Prayer. It is important to note here that many groups hold hands, and some members choose to hug one another after the prayer. This is NOT a requirement. You should be asked before you are touched or hugged, and you certainly have the right and responsibility to say, “No thank you,” if you feel uncomfortable.

 

2010 - present

2010 - present